Here the brāhmanas’ wives are saying something similar to what the gopīs say at the beginning of the rāsa dance (Bhāg. 10.29.31), when Lord Krishna tells them to go home as well. Like this verse, the gopīs’ statement begins with the words maivam vibho ’rhati bhavān gaditum nri-śamsam.
Nigama refers to the Vedic literature, which states that one who surrenders at the lotus feet of the Lord does not return to this material world. Thus the brāhmanas’ wives appealed to the Lord that since they had surrendered to Him, it was unfair for Him to order them to return to their materialistic husbands.
According to Śrīla Viśvanātha Cakravartī Thākura, Lord Krishna might have pointed out to the brāhmanas’ wives, “You young ladies are members of the aristocratic brāhmana community, so how can you surrender at the feet of a mere cowherd boy?”
To this the ladies might have replied, “Since we have already surrendered at Your lotus feet, and since we desire to become Your servants, we are obviously not maintaining a false identification as members of the so-called brāhmana community. You can easily ascertain this from our words.”
Lord Krishna might have replied, “I am a cowherd boy, and My proper maidservants and girlfriends are the cowherd girls, the gopīs.”
The wives might have answered, “True, let them be so. Let them shine forth if You are embarrassed in front of Your relatives to make brāhmana ladies Your maidservants. We certainly don’t want to embarrass You. We will not go to Your village but will rather remain in Vrindāvana, like presiding deities of the forest. We simply desire to perfect our lives by even a slight trace of connection with You.”
Thus by the spiritual insight of Śrīla Viśvanātha Cakravartī Thākura, we learn that the brāhmanas’ wives offered to remain at a distance and simply take the tulasī leaves that would fall from the lotus feet of Krishna or be crushed by the feet of His girlfriends when He would embrace them.
The ladies offered to carry these tulasī leaves upon their heads. Thus renouncing the desire to become Krishna’s intimate girlfriends or maidservants (a position they knew was difficult to achieve), the young brāhmana ladies begged to remain in Vrindāvana forest. If the Lord had then asked “Then what will your family members say?” they would have replied “We have already transcended our so-called relatives because we are seeing You, the Supreme Lord, face to face.”